3. Find Solutions To Recurring Problems:

Don’t have the same struggle multiple times without identifying the core issue and finding a creative solution to the problem. If you are in a struggle with a child over the same request, instead of complaining about it and allowing the cyclical problem to continue, put some thought into it until you actually find a solution that is realistic to what is actually happening rather than what you just want to be happening. Here’s a great example of this principle in action: “When my son and I were struggling over winter coats I realized I needed a more permanent solution that would respect his ability to choose what to wear while balancing my fear of us getting stuck  in icy cold winds. I dropped the arguing and instead gave him access to the daily weather report. Armed with new information, we agreed that any morning that showed the average temp to be under 12 C / 53 F he would agree to take the jacket. Checking the weather report became his responsibility and taking the coat was now within his control while respecting my desire to keep him safe.