The Survival Tips For Newly Single Mothers

Chances are if you’re a newly-single mother, you never anticipated being one. Sadly, the odds of two people staying married are pretty slim, especially when divorce rates are a staggering 50% for first time marriages, and increases to 67% for second-time marriages. Raising children is full of ups and downs, and when there’s no partner at home that difficulty raises to a whole new level. Here are some tips to help navigate through single motherhood.

1. Create a child-care network.

Having an emotional support system during this new phase in your life is by far one of the most important tips I have. If you haven’t joined a support group, now is the time to form one. Get involved with as many things as you can so you have no extra time on your hands to think. Chances are you will find some cool moms that are dealing with the exact same thing, and you won’t feel alone.

For last-minute emergencies: If you don’t have a list of people to count on just in case an emergency comes up, now is the time to start putting a plan in place. Look to neighbors, friends, or family members to call if you need to be in two places at once.

2. Get your finances under control.

Many women who are newly single don’t have a clue about finances, or how to save money. If an ex was in charge with the bills, it’s now time to get educated about your finances. Establish a budget and know what sum of money is to be expected and learn as much as you can as quickly as you can.

3. Put yourself first.

You’re probably in no way ready to start dating anyone, but you will need to get a life outside of the house. Take advantage of downtime, and make sure you’re putting your needs before everyone else’s. A mother needs to get the right amount of sleep, and to get proper exercise so that she can have energy to perform effectively.

4. Be positive.

Many times being positive is easier said than done, especially if you’re going through a rough patch with emotions and guilt about raising your children alone. Try not to look at the negatives in this situation, instead embrace the positive in your life and be grateful for everything you have.